I have this recurring dream. I’m seated at a round table with all kinds of people I know. It’s generally people I get along well with, but seeing as how I’m paranoid in real life, I always have this suspicion that these people at the table don’t like me as well as I think they do. Well there’s one woman there who I don’t specifically know but who has apparently heard about me. She proceeds to share her thoughts on me, and they’re not very kind. It seems like she hits on all those things I seem to be most sensitive about. And for whatever reason, I announce that whatever other people think of you is none of your business, and I get up and leave the table.

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It seems like a crazy piece of advice or wisdom or whatever you’d like to call it – what other people think of you is none of your business. How could it be none of my business? If you’re talking about me, isn’t that my business? I can feel my blood pressure start to rise at the thought of what’s being said about me not being my business. But do you want to know the truth? If you want to have good relationships with others and with yourself, then keep in mind that what other people think of you really is none of your business.

Let’s break this down then…

How is what people think of you is none of your business? How does it help your relationship with others? 
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Let’s get to the point – it takes pressure off your relationships. You can be you. You’re not trying to fit their perception of you. You don’t hold their opinion so highly that it creates tension. It takes pressure off of proving yourself to others. It takes pressure off of trying to fit in where you don’t belong. It allows everyone and everything to just be, to be as it is. Just being is a beautiful thing.

How does it help your relationship with yourself?
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Just like my dream, when you can walk away remembering that what other people think about you is none of your business, you show yourself and others that what people think or say doesn’t change you. You are still who you are. You don’t get bogged down in others’ opinions because you realize at the end of the day that you have to live with yourself, and therefore what you feel about yourself is most important. When you remember that what other people think of you is none of your business, you can make your business the bettering of your own life. That, once again, is a beautiful thing.

 

So next time you’re tempted to get involved in the drama of finding out what others think of you or get worried about trying to get people to say good things about you, remember that what you think about yourself is most important. The more time you spend worrying about what other people say about you = less time making your life better. Less time worrying = more time working on making your life better.

I know this is probably going to go against everything I just said, but just in case you’re having a rough time lately, know that I think pretty highly of you. (Hey, we all need a pick-me-up sometimes.)

Here’s to a great week! I’ve got some Halloween shenanigans planned, hopefully you have as much fun!

Much Love,

Jen